Becky’s parents divorced when she was 15 years old. Her family’s troubles and her coping mechanisms began much earlier. Kids cope with family trouble in different ways. Some kids withdraw; others act out. Becky coped through achievement.
You know that old maxim: “Do one thing every day that scares you”? Maybe you’re a little too busy for every day or even every week, but what about once a year or every summer? My children all go to different schools; the older two are also in separate school districts, often resulting in differing vacation days or weeks. This year at Spring Break that very situation occurred with my eldest having a whole week off that his siblings did not. We took a lovely, short family trip, (aka visited the grandparents in BC the week they were all off), and I took my eldest son on a trip away, just the two of us, during his following extra week off school.
“It’s harder than I thought it would be,” my friend commented of her new marriage. “I don’t understand his kids and we’re not on the same page when it comes to parenting. I hope it gets easier with time or I don’t know if we’ll make it.” Remarriage, when children are part of the package, is challenging. Understanding the unique relationships created and how to navigate the stages the new family will face can help determine the success or failure of remarriage.
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