For many parents, yelling has become a normal part of our daily routine. But recent studies show that harsh verbal discipline may be as harmful as physical punishment, especially for adolescents. Moreover, when mom and dad yell often, children of all ages are likely to tune out our reprimands and requests. So what is an overwhelmed parent to do? Next time you feel the urge to yell, keep your cool - and maintain a positive connection with your kids - by resorting to one of the following alternatives instead.
I turned 40 earlier this year. In the months leading up to this milestone, I frequently pondered how to acknowledge it: ‘Party? Family get-together? Fancy dinner?’ The answer came to me when preparing for a family trip. While sorting the clothing, spare clothing, shoes, spare shoes, accessories, toiletries, medication, toys, en route entertainment, snacks, etc. for three kids, I declared in my inside voice, ‘This sucks! Imagine if I just had to pack for myself...’ (Imagine a flashing light bulb moment whilst hearing a resounding ‘Ahhh’ choral here.)
Imagine a little girl, not even two years old, walking up to you in a hall at the Children’s Hospital, hand in hand with a police officer. She has red eyes. Her hair is tangled and uneven. She has a goose egg on her head, and marks around her legs. The smiley face earrings you spot in her ears make her innocence shine through in this terrible moment.
When it comes to seeking the support of a child psychologist, there can be many different driving forces for families. Because of the complex and dynamic nature of children’s development, however, it can be challenging for some parents to identify when it may be time to seek help and contact a psychologist. Although there will always be variability in when parents choose to obtain psychological services for their children, the following points aim to offer parents guidance about some (though not all!) instances in which a child psychologist may be able to offer support.
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