You started week one with dinner, only to talk about vet bills and braces. Next week was a movie, but you couldn’t agree on which flick to see. Running out of ideas, your commitment slipped in week three and you rented a movie after putting the kids to bed. It didn’t take long for date night to become just another boring chore.
After weeks of one parent walking a newborn and the other comforting a teething toddler every night, you and your partner have finally stolen a romantic hour. You lie there basking in the afterglow, enjoying the silence and being alone together. You’re about to drift off to a restful and satisfying sleep, when your door bursts open, and a panicked two-year old wails, "Mommy, I gonna throw up."
One of the very best parenting tools is the Parent Time Out. When parents are feeling upset, angry, or frustrated over a parenting issue, or over their children’s behaviour, it can help to diffuse the situation if the parent removes themselves to get calm and centered, rather then force the isolation of their child into a Child Time Out. After the parent is calm, they are in a much better frame of mind to deal with the issue at hand and they’ve avoided saying and doing things they might regret later. Sometimes, with young children, this is easier said then done!
Balancing out life’s stresses is essential for maintaining – especially if you are a parent. To help you maintain the hectic pace of your life, you need to regenerate regularly, not just one day a year. The best and easiest way to regenerate is to find your own special place to relax and remove yourself from the world. Maybe for you that’s a stolen hour in the middle of the day for coffee with friends, some time at a club or spa, reading a great book, or simply taking a walk.
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