How many times have you been told to ‘just breathe’? How many times have you told your child to ‘just breathe’? ‘Just breathe’ is a common phrase used in our society when we feel the person we are with needs to calm down. For those of us who have participated in yoga or meditation, we have learned how to breathe deeply and know the benefits of deep breathing. But for those who have not experienced deep breathing, it can be a very frustrating phrase to hear.
Pregnancy or infant loss is one of the worst experiences a mother can go through. Death, combined with what is typically a positive, joyous occasion, propels a mother and father into a state of shock and despair while their friends and family often struggle to know what to do and what to say. There are few words; and even the words you do find never seem to be enough or appropriate.
A mother and father with two toddlers sit ever so quietly in a nice restaurant. No fussing, no whining. It all seems so serene... Look more carefully and you notice the youngsters with their heads down, immersed in their tablets. So what exactly is the problem here?
Nobody wants to imagine this, but there is a high likelihood that during your parenting career, a child (not necessarily your own) will disclose that they have been sexually abused. Statistics indicate that 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 5 boys will experience sexual abuse before the age of 18. While these numbers are staggering, what is even more disheartening is that around 50 per cent of abuse goes undisclosed and unreported. Therefore, there may be times when you suspect abuse, or are concerned about a child’s behaviors, but aren’t sure how to proceed because there has been no disclosure.
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