As our children grow, they will be faced with many difficult choices. Each choice they make will determine their success in school, friendships, and their future. Every parent’s goal is to raise kids who make smart decisions. So how do we begin to teach them to make good choices in the moment? The answer is by teaching them self-control. Self-control is defined as the ability to control oneself. In particular, one’s emotions and desires, especially in difficult situations. So, as a parent, how do you go about teaching it to your kids?
When your child throws a tantrum, it is easy to get frustrated, overwhelmed, angry, and embarrassed, especially if the tantrum occurs in public. Unfortunately, the occasional tantrum cannot be avoided; they happen to every parent. But while your child is in the throes of a fit, try to remember these tips.
“It’s the worst day of my life” is a common refrain from my son. When I pick him up from an activity or from school, he often starts with his list of what was wrong with his day. For a person who strives to find the positive and keep her sense of humor, it can be challenging to parent a child who tends toward the negative. My standard comeback is that he needs to tell me an equal number of positive comments to balance the negative ones. Sometimes this reduces the list of complaints and, at the very least, teaches him perspective.
You often hear the phrase, ‘Terrible Twos’ once your child enters toddlerhood. Friends joke about their kid’s latest tantrum, and family assures you it is ‘just a phase.’ But what do you do if your child’s ‘Terrible Twos’ never go away? Sure, kids like to test a parent’s boundaries, but it can be extremely frustrating for those families who have a child who is defiant most of the time and cannot seem to find a discipline method that really works.
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