The star baseball player, the most graceful girl in the ballet class, the child who consistently gets top marks at school – these kids are competent, right? They excel at what they do, they’re recognized by others as being capable and effective. They must have high self-esteem. Maybe…
Every child needs to feel lovable, just as he needs air to breathe. In order to feel lovable, kids need to be loved. That’s obvious. But it’s not enough that we love them, they have to feel loved. They have to get the message. There’s a multitude of ways we can show a child that they are special, but what works for one child won’t necessarily be meaningful for another. Love means something different to all of us, children included. Children need to be loved in ways that fit their own unique needs and personalities. If we listen, if we observe carefully, if we really tune in to our children’s worlds, they’ll show us just how to make them feel special.
These are just some of the anguished comments Parent Development Centre (PDC) volunteers hear from moms and dads every day. As Oprah Winfrey has said, parenting is the hardest job in the world. And once in a while, every parent needs a little help.
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