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End the Homework Wars

By the time Meira Mednick’s daughter was in third 
grade, homework time had morphed into lengthy, embattled evenings fraught with angry 
tears as frustrated daughter and frazzled mom squared off. “My daughter began showing signs of difficulty in focus on homework in Kindergarten. By second grade, we were drowning,” says Mednick. 

Mednick tried tactics like feeding her first grader an early dinner as soon as she got home from school and giving her time to relax before starting homework. Instead, “we ended up spending the next two years in a tug of war of time, and many tears were shed,” she says.

Many parents can relate and
dread the contentious homework 
hour, which can plunder an
otherwise peaceful evening. For 
kids who struggle to tune out
 distractions and concentrate on the
 task at hand, sitting down to do 
homework doesn’t rank high on their list of priorities.

Experts agree: the ability to focus is crucial to achieving goals. How can we create a more calming homework atmosphere that will enhance our child’s ability to concentrate and get the job done quickly without the draining drama?

1. Work in short bursts. Kids get overwhelmed with long worksheets and multiple assignments. Break homework down into timed chunks. After a busy day at school, parents can typically expect their youngsters to focus on a task for one minute for each year of their age. That means a six-year-old should be given a two- or three-minute break every six minutes.

“Expecting 30 minutes of homework out of a first grader isn’t realistic without breaks,” says Rachel Rudman, a paediatric occupational therapist.

The timed approach made a big difference for Mednick’s daughter. “Previously, she would be discouraged even before picking up a pencil. By having
 a timed environment, she knew that she could tackle one interval at a time,” says Mednick, whose daughter is now an eighth grade honors student.

2. Create ‘smart brain’ breaks. During the timed breaks, engage your child in short activities that help reorganize and refocus the brain, like jumping jacks, playing with legos or playdoh, or snacking on crunchy carrots or pretzel rods or something chewy, such as fruit leather.

Blowing up a balloon can also help ease frustrations. “Blowing forces the child to take deep breaths, which increases relaxation and focus,”
says Rudman.

Avoid electronics, which can be harder to pull a child away from.

3. Strike a pose. Yoga stretches and breathing exercises can calm and re-energize a tired body. Balancing poses like bird or airplane, and a full body twist combines breathing and concentrated stretching movements.
 “Balancing poses require a level of concentration that are a great way to strengthen those ‘focus muscles’ and create a body and mind that is strong and relaxed,” says Mariam Gates, the author of the new children’s book Good Night Yoga: A Pose-by-Pose Bedtime Story.

4. Integrate natural elements. Researchers at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign have found
that including ornamental plants in a learning area can further enhance a child’s ability to concentrate and learn.

“And weirdly, the more involved the child is in the plant’s life or maintenance, the more learning goes on,” says Magalie Rene, a classroom design consultant, who works with parents and schools to create study spaces that foster learning.

Place a plant in your home’s study area and have your child water it as a transitionary cue before beginning homework, suggests Rene.

5. Get organized. Make a homework box either out of a large shoebox or a plastic container. Have your child decorate it and store homework supplies like pens, pencils, crayons, markers, scissors, paper, a glue stick, and anything else they might need. “Having everything together creates an atmosphere of organization and success,” says Rudman. If your youngster continues to struggle with focus and concentration, consult with your family’s paediatrician or a child psychologist.

As the mom of two energetic school-age boys, freelance journalist Christa knows all too well the stress homework time can create in a family. Christa’s latest book is Happy, Healthy & Hyperconnected: Raise a Thoughtful Communicator in a Digital World.


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