My daughter is 11 years old, but still screams in terror at the mere thought of getting a shot or having blood drawn. We adopted her when she was nine years old. She endured years of trauma before becoming a part of our family. In fact, she is diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder and needles are a major trigger. Most older kids don't react as strongly as my daughter, but it is very common for children of all ages to be afraid of shots.
Here are some tricks I've learned to ease needle anxiety:
1. Tell your child exactly what to expect. Your instinct might be to keep the shot a secret and let the doctor spring it on them. This method of attack may actually make children more fearful of going to the doctor. I've found that letting my daughter know that there's a possibility of a shot in advance gives her a chance to prepare herself. It also helps us build and maintain a trusting relationship.
2. Acknowledge the fear. Comments like, “Be a big girl!”; “It's just a little shot! It won't even hurt!”; and “There's nothing to cry about!” simply aren't helpful. Your child's fear is real and brushing it off doesn't change that. Instead, acknowledge it. I tell my daughter, “I know shots are scary for you. I'll stay right with you. It's okay to be afraid, but you can handle it.”
3. Help them find coping tools. Experiment with different strategies until you find something that calms your child. Holding a younger child on your lap with them facing you may offer the needed security. Older children may feel better if they make eye contact with you or squeeze your hand. Try singing a special song while the shot is given or telling each other knock, knock jokes.
My daughter and I take deep breaths together, counting them aloud. Having blood drawn is even more traumatic for her than shots. She feels safest when my husband is sitting on the bench next to her with his arm around her and her face burrowed into his chest when she has to have blood taken.
4. Let them see you go through it. Take your child with you when you know you're going to be receiving a shot or having blood drawn. If you're nervous or afraid, let them know. Allow them to comfort you as you get your shot.
My daughter was with me when I needed a shot for pneumonia. She became almost as upset as when she has to get a shot herself. To avoid that, I now take her with me every time I need a shot or blood drawn. I have her hold my hand and walk me through it so she feels like she is taking care of me.
5. If all else fails, offer a reward. There's nothing wrong with a reward! After all, adults wouldn't go to work if we weren't rewarded with a paycheque for our efforts! If the promise of a trip to the park or an ice cream cone makes getting a shot more tolerable for your child, go for it! My daughter is due for several shots next month, and I'm already brainstorming what I'm going to offer up as a reward for her bravery.
Rachael is a mother, freelance writer, educator and family advocate. She lives with her husband, daughter and three cats.
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