Do you come from a “dysfunctional family”? Is your ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) score so high that you worry about doing the same to your kids? Can parenting habits change in one generation? Yes, you can change your stars!
If less-than-stellar parents raised you, here are some changes you can make to become the parent you wished you had for the next generation you are raising. You do not have to repeat negative parenting habits with your own children.
You can change your parenting style from over- permissive or authoritarian to a collaborative/ democratic positive parenting style:
Parenting, for the most part, is a learned pattern. We can change parenting patterns and develop new ones. When we become aware of our shortfalls and make a conscious effort to change how we behave, we become really good at parenting after lots of practice. Don’t worry if you make mistakes; Rome was not built in a day. Even with new learned behaviors, in times of stress, we tend to fall back on our old habits. Apologize and vow to do better next time. With renewed commitment, we get better at changing old habits with time, practice, information, and continuance. You can change family dynamics in one generation - it all starts with you!
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