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You Have Just Received a Diagnosis for Your Child - Now What?

I distinctly remember the day my son was diagnosed - parents don’t forget receiving that type of news. Somehow, after listening to the cluster of labels applied to my child, I ended up at the grocery store. The clerk asked me calmly, as if my world hadn’t just been crushed, “How are you today?” I shoved down my emotions and provided the expected response, “I’m fine.” I wanted to say the opposite.

That day, I did not think anything would ever be ‘fine’ again. After receiving a diagnosis for your child, it is natural to feel overwhelmed and to experience a mixture of emotions: shock, confusion, denial, sadness, guilt, anger - even relief. It may anchor you to remember that, despite the diagnosis, your child is still your child. A diagnosis is not predictive of whether your child will lead a happy, meaningful life. Also, it is not reflective of you as a parent. Your child with a diagnosis is more like other children than different from other children; they want to explore, play, laugh, learn, contribute, love, and be loved.

If you have recently received a diagnosis for your child, here are five steps to help you move forward:

1. Breathe.
Give yourself time to absorb and process this news. It’s okay not to be okay sometimes. You have experienced a loss and a period of adjustment is to be expected. Be kind to yourself. Practice self-care and compassion.

2. Become informed. Learn about your child’s diagnosis and research various child-centred services. Explore information on family supports offered within your community, as disability affects the entire family unit. As Calgary has numerous resources for families of children with special needs, you may feel the need for guidance from someone who has ‘been there.’

Children’s Link can help! The agency is a great first point of contact offering information, referral, and support. Experienced Family Support Workers, who are parents of children with special needs, are a phone call, email message, or office visit away. If you’d like to meet in person but can’t make it to their location, they’ll come to you - or arrange a virtual meeting through Skype or Facetime.

Children’s Link maintains a current resource database of available services and supports on a wide variety of topics such as funding, counselling, respite, aides, therapies, school options, assessment, disability-serving agencies, support groups, recreation options, and more.

3. Ask for assistance. Contact Family Supports for Children with Disabilities (FSCD). The FSCD Program helps families with some of the extraordinary demands of raising a child with a disability. Services are meant to help strengthen the family’s ability to promote their child’s healthy development and encourage their child’s participation in activities at home and in the community. Visit or call the intake line at 403-297-6022. Children’s Link staff can also provide you with information on the FSCD program and assist you with an intake application. In addition, the organization offers workshops for parents on relevant topics and hosts monthly Coffee Social support groups.

4. Shift into ‘business mode.' As a parent of a child with a disability, you have a challenging job. Taking a step back from your emotions and moving into business mode temporarily can enable you to manage the care of your child more effectively. Learning efficient ways to organize paperwork, to document and share information with others, and to manage meetings and appointments will be of benefit as you work on behalf of your child.

5. Connect with others. Do not stay isolated. It is valuable to reach out and connect with others. Consider joining a parent-support group through Children’s Link, another disability-specific agency in the community, or a social network online. Other parents can help you manage stress, serve as a source of information on community resources, provide suggestions - and even get you to crack a smile!

As you adjust to receiving a diagnosis for your child, know this: There is hope and you are not alone. Be encouraged. As you continue your journey, you will establish a new normal and experience joy once again.

Sandra Cicman, M.Ed., is the Education Team Lead at Children’s Link. Children’s Link connects families of children with disabilities in Calgary and area with the services and supports they need, when they need it. To speak with a Family Support Worker, call 403-230-9158, visit or connect on Facebook and Twitter. 




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