When your kids set and reach their goals, they gain more than a short-term boost. Studies show that setting and working toward goals helps build important life skills like resourcefulness, problem-solving, and autonomy. But your enthusiasm to encourage your kids toward their goals can sometimes go awry, motivating you to use negative, counter-productive, or even damaging strategies in the quest for achievement. Here’s how you can help your children nurture the skills they need to set and reach goals large and small, now and for years to come.
Choosing a trustworthy sitter for date night can be hard. Leaving your children with friends or family for a childless holiday can be challenging, too. Imagining your untimely passing, leaving your children orphans, and deciding who is best suited and willing to raise your children can be nearly impossible. Sadly, in the event of your untimely death or incapacity without a Will, Enduring Power of Attorney, or Personal Directive, and decisions made with respect to your medical treatment, finances, or the care of
your children will be made by the courts without your guidance.
Yelling works but only if you save it for emergencies. If you yell at your kids all of the time, they get used to it and it loses its effect. It’s not surprising that we yell, though. It can feel frustrating when your kids won’t listen or when you feel like you are doing a bad job as a parent.
Recently, I took my daughter to the restroom at a local restaurant. As you might expect in a health-food restaurant located in a progressive city, the restroom was labeled not men, not women, not family, not restroom; it was labeled ‘all genders.’ It didn’t occur to me to think about my daughter’s reaction to this term, given the Class One Potty Emergency at hand.
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