If you ask most kids where the things in your house came from, they may name their favorite big box store or major online retailer, but it’s important that they know there are local stores that offer a hand-picked selection of high-quality toys, games and books carefully curated with love and care.
It’s a rainy, late fall afternoon – the perfect time to cuddle up on the couch with a book. But when you say, “Why don’t we read together?” your six-year-old scrunches her nose and skips off to pet the cat. What makes some children reluctant readers, and what can you do to help them get excited about books and reading? There are a handful of reasons why some children just don’t seem to want to spend time with books and some easy ways to help.
All children can behave in ways that are… not adorable. Big behavior can be exhausting and maddening for even the calmest of parents. But there’s a good reason for this. Children create their distress in their important adults as a way to share the emotional load when that load gets too heavy. This is how it’s meant to be. In the same way that children weren’t meant to carry big physical loads on their own, they also weren’t meant to carry big emotional loads. Big feelings and big behavior are a call to you for support to help them with that emotional load. When you are in front of your child with big feelings, whatever you are feeling is likely to be a reflection of what your child is feeling. If you are frustrated, angry, helpless, scared, it’s likely that they are feeling that way, too.
“When elephants fight, it’s the grass that gets trampled” – Kenyan Proverb
Conflict is not always a bad thing. Many positives come from conflict, not the least of which is learning how to resolve conflict itself in a peaceful and productive manner. Destructive conflict, on the other hand, serves little good. In my practice, I have found that some of the most significant change in clients – kids and adults alike – comes from conflict.
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