Imagine a little girl, not even two years old, walking up to you in a hall at the Children’s Hospital, hand in hand with a police officer. She has red eyes. Her hair is tangled and uneven. She has a goose egg on her head, and marks around her legs. The smiley face earrings you spot in her ears make her innocence shine through in this terrible moment.
For many parents, yelling has become a normal part of our daily routine. But recent studies show that harsh verbal discipline may be as harmful as physical punishment, especially for adolescents. Moreover, when mom and dad yell often, children of all ages are likely to tune out our reprimands and requests. So what is an overwhelmed parent to do? Next time you feel the urge to yell, keep your cool - and maintain a positive connection with your kids - by resorting to one of the following alternatives instead.
Read on for age-by-age guidance on putting natural consequences to work for your family - naturally.
Your marriage (or your adult partnership) is the foundation upon which your entire family is built. If your relationship is strong, your family will be stronger. Your life will be more peaceful. You’ll be a better parent and quite simply, you’ll have more fun in your life. Even if you believe this, it can be hard to put your adult relationship in the position of importance it deserves. Yes, being a parent can get in the way of your relationship, but you don’t want to let it flounder until the kids are older and you can ‘get around to it’!
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