How many times have you been told to ‘just breathe’? How many times have you told your child to ‘just breathe’? ‘Just breathe’ is a common phrase used in our society when we feel the person we are with needs to calm down. For those of us who have participated in yoga or meditation, we have learned how to breathe deeply and know the benefits of deep breathing. But for those who have not experienced deep breathing, it can be a very frustrating phrase to hear.
Pregnancy or infant loss is one of the worst experiences a mother can go through. Death, combined with what is typically a positive, joyous occasion, propels a mother and father into a state of shock and despair while their friends and family often struggle to know what to do and what to say. There are few words; and even the words you do find never seem to be enough or appropriate.
When my daughter wakes up in the morning and gets out of bed, a small ruckus of howls, barks and a tap dance of doggy toenails on linoleum begin downstairs. If you ask Samantha about it, she smiles knowingly to herself. Her dogs, Daisy and Izzy, are over the moon to greet her every morning. This type of unconditional love is what most parents are after when we imagine what it might be like to introduce a pet into our home. Just don’t expect this type of happy harmony to happen overnight.
A mother and father with two toddlers sit ever so quietly in a nice restaurant. No fussing, no whining. It all seems so serene... Look more carefully and you notice the youngsters with their heads down, immersed in their tablets. So what exactly is the problem here?
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